back to busy week

had been thinking about if i should give myself a break and not to text him from today until he found himself missing me

but i kept asking myself why i cant just let our feeling grow naturally and being so hard on me? he wouldn't know how i felt as i never showed him 

i text him after dinner when lying on bed, watching tv because i wanna pick up Mandarin again

i text him because i want him to know my existence and i want to know if he got recovery from cough. but he said it got worse and i guessed it right because of his asthma affecting him a lot 

as his girlfriend, i just could text him and asked how he is. he used to not texting until next morning of my last message. i dun care and just leave it as it is

When your emotional well-being rides on whether or not he 

responds to you, he can sense it. He knows he has complete 

control: you aren't going anywhere because everything's riding 

on him. You need him to respond to you in a certain way. 

 

I know it can feel impossible to gain control over your mind 

when it only wants to focus on him, but it's actually quite simple 

when you follow this strategy.

 

Ready?

 

Treat him like he's just another one of your friends. 

 

Think about it.

 

You don't expect to hear from your friends every single day.

 

And if you don't hear from a friend for a few days, or if she takes 

a few hours to text you back, you don't panic and wonder if the 

friendship is doomed and think your friend doesn't care about 

you anymore.

 

Instead, your thoughts probably go something like "hmm, I 

guess (insert name) must be pretty busy at work, I'm sure I'll 

hear from her later."

 

You don't obsess and pick apart the last text you sent to her, 

trying to find a hidden clue to explain why she didn't respond. 

 

You also probably don't think and rethink, write and rewrite the 

texts you send to your friends, carefully calculating every 

punctuation mark and debating whether or not to use an 

emoticon. 

 

The e-mails, texts, IM's and phone calls with your friends 

require no analysis and result in no wave of emotions. They're 

easy, effortless and natural.

 

THIS is how you should approach your interactions with the 

fellas. As soon as you ditch the drama and just let things 

happen naturally, the mounting pressure in the relationship 

that you weren't even consciously aware of will dissipate. 

 

You'll also feel a whole lot better and more confident once that 

guy no longer has complete control over your emotions.

 

I've said it before and I'll keep saying it, nothing is more 

appealing, intriguing and irresistible to a man than a secure, 

confident woman who can be just as happy with him as she is 

without him.